Self-optimization instead of living

When self-optimization becomes avoidance

On the paradox of measuring life so precisely that no time remains to actually live it.

May 20, 2026

A substitute action in four steps

01

The situation

Sleep scores have been dropping for weeks, yet the app displaying them is opened more reliably than the bedroom light is switched off. Analyzing the day lasts longer than the restful part of the day itself.

02

Why it is tempting

Optimization promises that everything becomes controllable if we only measure with enough granularity. It disguises avoidance as discipline: those who constantly analyze their behavior never have to change it.

03

What it replaces

The mundane, unspectacular step—going to bed earlier, cooking once, taking a walk—that doesn't feel measurable enough to provide an immediate sense of accomplishment.

04

The next concrete step

Deliberately ignore a single metric for an entire week and simply perform the underlying action instead. No tracking, no reporting to yourself.

Substitute actions are human. Noticing them is not a verdict — it is an invitation to try the smallest real action.